You think maybe if you tried a vibe alone and got to know your body first would help? Take it slow and easy, and RELAX. Let the feelings come.

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hmmm ah was tinkin about tryin the ball thing... cause i don't use vibe...*ducks from rocks*..lol

i think i can't get pass the pain... and they say once u pass the pain that's where the pleasure comes in..

Hi red!

All the usual things, lots of good lube, etc. It helps to prepare yourself by inserting something smaller and smooth first to help you "open up."

One thing that might help is to have him lay on his back and lube him up (and yourself) really well, then kneel over him and ease back onto his cock. That way, you control how fast it slides into your ass. If you start to feel a little pain, just ease off it for a minute and then continue.

This way you really minimize the pain and control how things go. It's true that once he's all the way in, and you get used to the sensation, it feels amazing! I love receiving anal sex! Good luck.

A lot of it is headspace, I truly think that is half the battle with anything. It is very sweet that you want to give this to your lover, however, just remember, not every sex act is for everyone. I suggest not to push it, and like people have said, take it easy, relax and most of all, take it at your own pace. Anal sex for some needs some working up to, start with something small like your own finger and work your way up, perhaps that will help, but if not, no worries, anal sex may just not be for you, and there is nothing wrong with that...after all, there are many other things to do

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redbones---My wife & I,feel the same as you.I have been told,that I have,a
wide,penis.Originally,my wife,wasn't for it,but we tried it.It was painfull,for
her,so we didn't succeed.We heard of different things(Lube,stretching,etc.)
but there are,so many other things,that we do enjoy,that we figured,why work at it?Since then,years ago,neither of us has had any desire to try it.If
there weren't so many other enjoyable things,we might try it but we have been married for 39 yrs.,& have existed,so far. Irish
P.S.Different strokes,for different folks!

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Try to figure out what your mental block is.

For years my wife would have anal sex with me because I wanted it not necessarily because she got anything out of it. There were rare times when she let her inhibitions go, and in those instances she LOVED anal sex. The problem was she couldn't get her head around the idea that liking anal sex didn't make her a slut, or what ever. In her mind only "bad girls" enjoyed anal sex.

Try these links they might help.

http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/aanal.html
http://www.goodvibes.com/cgi-bin/sg...ulesofanal.html

Also realise that anal sex isn't just sticking dick in ass. It involves everything from fingers, and toys, to analingus (oral anal contact). You don't have to pound ass like a porn star to have anal sex.