there is this girl lives near me and she says she is in love with
me she is only 18 years old i have over the last few months
as passing would talk to her then yesterday she drops
this bomb shell iam flaterd but iam a mess at the moment
how do i let her down with out hurting her
my mates say tell her your gay or tell me to get in there
my son (no help at all) janes away at the moment so cant ask her

well... I think that if you really have no interest in her, then you need to let her know. Explain to her that your life is complicated and that you are dealing with mending your heart and until you have done that you aren't able to be with anyone. No doubt, no matter what, she would like honesty. Explain to her your sexual preference if you think that might help but only if you feel like you want to....

Smile sweetly, tell her you're taken and carry on.

No need to get complex, just gently definite.

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Tell her you're flattered but she's too young, you're getting over someone . . . whatever version of the truth would be easier.

axe31---I feel your pain!Sometimes;people;just won't take no for
an awnser.Example:I was discharged;from the armed forces.I had gotten married;in another state.We moved back to Conn. after my discharge and I was;Christmas;shopping;in New Haven;
one day;with my cousin.An old girlfriend;followed my cousin&I;around;from store to store;dragging her current husband;with her.It was;very embarrassing;to me.I felt embarrassed;for her husband.Of course;my cousin;thought it was
hysterical!He is two years younger than me and he modelled himself after me.My advice;is to tell her(not hurtfully)immediately;
and hope that she reacts right.I know that I'll never forget that
day!It would be flattering;but not the way it occured! Irish

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Axe, the fact that you are asking for help just goes to show what a sweetheart you are. You don't want to hurt her and you are looking for a good way to do that. The best thing is to be honest.

*hugs*

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ok i have talked to her about my situation and that we
would not work she said she understood i think she
will be ok thank you for the advice i have never
been in this siuation before iam usaly the one
being told no.

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