Hi I find that I can not cum with a BJ. I was wondering if I am the only one ?

You don't say how long you've been trying at this, or how experienced you & your lover is... oral sex is an aquired skill, not something we're born knowing (no matter what the sex stories would have us believe... apologies to Pixie's Place here.) It could just be in your own mind you are holding back; it's happened to me on occasion, even though being sucked off is my favorite thing in the world. There is a little squemishness natural for both parties, fortunately the wife & I have both overcome most of this. My advice is to relax, let what happens happen, & remember; there's no such thing as a bad BJ, only great & fanFUCKINGtastic!!!

Well your not the only one... I was a virgin when I married my wife and she has tried a couple of times. Unfortunitly I never came. The one time it was for more then 2 hours.

My first attemt and over sereral years with a woman , who at first was new to it. Cuased me pain with here teeth etc. but we worked through it. Still could not cum. Now I am with a woman who has the skill ( I think ) and is use to guys cumming and is hurt when I do not. I am trying to tell here not to get upset and she is responding. I still find myself at times losing an erection when she goes down on me ( psychological for me I think not in it is bad or dirty etc ) and still not able to cum despite she causes the best feeling I have had geeting a BJ.

Thanks to those that replied.

hey, man

never had a problem cumming with a bj, but i feel your pain, that must be embarassing.

My first introduction to sex was through oral sex
No problem in releasing my juices into my lovers mouth.
Then he told me to suck his cock and about five minute he unloaded his cum in my mouth and he had no problem in unloading his juices every time I put his cock in my mouth maybe you are not horny enough

I am not alone in being a women who really enjoys, even loves, performing oral sex. Other women my not have my intense love of semen, of cum, but that happens to be one of my particular fetishes.

I really do love the taste, texture and aroma of a man's cum.
I love it in my mouth, and I do swallow, (sometimes just to be tidy) but I also love it on my face, on my breasts, and pretty much any part of my body.

What I have learned is that penis's have their own memory. If a penis was scraped by a partner's teeth early in their experience, or there was some other cause of pain, it can be difficult to ignore this deeply rooted memory and enjoy the blow job.

Sometimes there are also deep mental and emotional issues associated with receiving oral sex. Sometimes a bad experience brings back bad memories, some men just can't get the though "this is dirty" (and not in a good way) out of their minds.

There have been a few men I couldn't bring to orgasm by giving head, but they enjoyed the experience, and then I fucked their brains out.

Do you have problems reaching orgasm by having her stroke you? Or even with intercourse?

By the way, there are some medications, including alcohol, that can impede orgasm.

The funny thing is, I often will bring a man off orally first, before doing anything else, to make the later experience last longer.



WW

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