So...new guy, (very) recently single, things are going REALLY well until we hit the bedroom....it's there, it's not, up, not so much....so I did my best to help...realized it just wasn't going to happen quite like that, and instead concentrated on....other things. A good time was definitely had by me Later on, offhand asked him if it was a little weird having a new girl in the house (that he had shared with his ex and her kids)...he said it wasn't really. Today, when IMing, he admits that it was a little weird and he thought that is might have been the "problem", and apologized. I explained that being in your 30s means that you just don't get worried about things not going as planned, and that I do want to give it another go, as does he. As far as I can figure, trying to be casual and understanding about it, without examining it to bits seems to have been the best thing. Any thoughts from anyone on whether this was the best strategy? Suggestions?