I am new to this forum, and I was enjoying the honest responses you all were giving; I have a question. I am an extremely shy BI, who's spouse is extremely supportive of my BI side, but I am the nervous one of bridging the gap (so to speak). Any suggestions on this point? I read one time where unless a women is ready to pay for her desires and needs, this may be a part of herself she may need to keep closed.

Maybe if you spoke with your husband he would not be upset if you had a female friend with which you could develop a sexual relationship. One of the big questions I think is are you interested in a purely sexual liason with another woman of are you hoping for a long term relationship that includes sex?

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No the problem is not my spouse, I am the one trying to move past the basic issue. I don't think I know how to move forward, outside of some lusicous kisses, and some hot petting, I think I am scared of me!

Well then maybe you are not ready yet....I find that when it's something I really want, I can usually figure out how to go about getting it but when it's something I'm not ready for , I encounter or create obstacles.

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What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

THen you need a friend that ISN'T afraid of you.

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Hmmm....I think you're underrating the kisses/petting. That can be some special stuff.

Really, I think you're doing fine. Take little steps until you don't realize the big ones are big. The best piece of advice I can give you is one you've already figured out here....talk talk talk. You're talking to your spouse, which is great. Now you've found this place, and it's a great chance to talk with other Bi women (and those who love us ) about what you're thinking/feeling/wanting. I remember it used to be like standing on the edge of a cliff.....I wanted to try so much, and just couldn't make myself jump. But when I was ready, the cliff just went away....all I had to do was take a step and kiss the girl. Sounds like you're already past that part .

God knows there's enough in the life to be worried about....don't spin your wheels worrying ABOUT being worried. You'll get there when you're ready.

Well, maybe it's the whole fantasy idea. I have had that fantasy, but it's not something I am interested in acting on.

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eh hum................clears throat.

Maybe I misread...I meant the fantasy of being with a woman...not something I want to act on....now with you asp...sure thing!!!


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tlg122333 I hope you have met some people here that can help you thru this kind of stuff. Just remember that part of the fun is the whole fantasy of stuff. If you go past that, will you still have that "excitement"?

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I figure you could always start out with a few cybering sessions to get used to the idea before you dive into the real deal