Ok will someone please tell me what went wrong? I thought this would be a sure thing.

My spouse has been working a lot lately in a very stress full job, so I thought I would give her what we call a “pamper mommy day” it is a day where myself and the kids do every thing around the house so she can relax. We let her sleep in and made breakfast in bed for her. Then we cleaned the house and kept out of the way so she could lie in bed and read all day. We made sure she took a nap (3 hours long). After a nice quite day I planned a romantic evening for the two of us. I cooked us a nice dinner, then put a movie on for the kids, so the two of us could have a little time alone together. I fixed us some drinks, drew a hot bubble bath for the two of us, with scented candles and bath oil. We had a nice long soke with her laying back on my chest, I held her in my arms while we talked about some of the past vacations we have been on and the romantic nights we have spent away with just the two of us. I told her that since this was her day,that she should lay back and let me do all the work. So I washed and rinsed her hair for her, washed her body, next I shaved her legs then, trimmed and shaved her pussy. When we were done in the bath I dressed her in a silk night gown took her to bed so we could lay down to read and talk some more (Although there was more petting and kissing going on than reading). At about 10:00pm I got up to tuck the kids in bed. Sound good so far? Well here is where things start to fall apart. When I came back to our room ready for a night of slow, easy passionate lovemaking, she tells me she has a headache and that her back is hurting her. Well being the concerned husband that I am, I promptly started to give her my very best back massage. I guess it must have worked because she fell asleep it about 10 minutes. That was three and a half hours ago, it is now 1:30 in the morning and instead of laying next to the women that I love in post orgasmic bliss, here I sit at the computer telling all of you people about it.
I don’t want to sound shallow. I know she is tired and needs her rest. But damnit everything was going so well. I planned and pulled of a perfect romantic setting. What went wrong?

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That's all it is, I think. It's unbelievably beautiful what you did but she can't get in the mood if she's not in the mood. Think back to the bath - for her, I'm guessing she was cuddling with you then and that was as good as sex for her. Don't be surprised if she jumps you soon but she needs time. I can totally understand where she's coming from - lovely lover chips in around the house and wants some loving but the romantic overtures can't be returned at that moment. I'm too tired!

OMG,,,, what a lucky woman your wife is. You did plan the perfect "pamper mommy day" and I don't think anything 'went wrong', you thought it had to end in lovemaking to be perfect. Maybe that would have been perfect for you, but it was your wifes day. On this day her body needed sleep more than anything else. But I'm sure she fell asleep feeling like the most loved woman in the world. And you have shown her how much she means to you. I have a feeling that "pamper daddy day" will take place in your home soon and more than make up for your slight disappointment in tonight.

Teddy

There is nothing better than being with someone you love and being able to relax completely. Poor lassie sounds exhausted!---but also so relaxed! Love to fall asleep with my guy------------sex is important -----but the feeling of being with the one u love is bliss!

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hitachi...

First... you sound like a wonderful thoughtful caring husband Kudos to you for that... especially when it isn't always easy.

Secondly... sounds like she may have been exhausted.. so don't give up... make this more of a regular routine... every couple weeks... so that she doesn't get so exhausted that she can't enjoy bliss along with you.

HUGS

hitachi, you sound like the kind of guy I'm TRYING to be!! I'm sure your wife thoroughly enjoyed her pampered day, and as several people have already said, was ondoubtedly very appreciative of your thoughtfulness!

Equally, you sound good about having done all those things for her - as well you should! - for me, those two things would be reward in themselves!

Massage.... hugs & cuddles..... pleasant, unstressed conversation... sometimes things like that are harder to achieve than sex... make the most of it mate, and your "time" will come!!

DM

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Thank you all for your comments. I know I sounded just like a child who had his candy taken away. I really did not mean for my shallowness to come through quit so clearly it has been about two weeks since we made love. I was just as caught up in the romance as she was, and was disappointed when she fell asleep. All of you are absolutely right; my wife is just worn out. The poor thing. She has thanked me and told me how wonderful I am, all day long. She tells me how much she wants to make love and how she cant wait to do it, but she is still to tired for sex. Bless her heart she fell asleep just before 8:00 tonight, while laying on me in bed. She did ask me to try and wake her up for a little midnight rendezvous, but I am just going to let her sleep for now. We are going to send the kids to their grandparents for spring break that will give the two of us 10 whole days alone together, and I am planning a weekend get away for us. So in the end everything will work out.

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Mind what poeple do not only what they say, for deeds will betray a lie.
Terry Goodkind, Wizzards Fifth Rule

There are two things a real man likes--danger and play;and he likes woman because she is the most dangerous of playthings.
Nietzsche


Monogamy does not have to mean Monotony

hitachi, you totally didn't sound like a child who had his candy taken away!!! You sounded like a guy wondering what was up. I am in the exact same boat as your wife. I talk about sex but can never find the time!!! When I'm off, I end up running errands, fielding phone calls (most of my friends and family live in different time zones and I work evenings so we can never talk during the week when I'm working . . .).

A weekend getaway will be just the ticket! No distractions! Good luck, sweetie!

hitachi, the truth is you have given here too much of rest...... Dont you know some proverbs
TOO MUCH IS TOO BAD.

Sound's like you did everything rightMaybe she just got toooo relaxed or she really did need the rest .Kid's can be very stressful and i'm speaking of my own experience this weekend,it definately got the best of me.Try a weekend away from kids if you can or even one nite it's not easy i know but we're planning a weekend away and it can't get here quick enough.You sound like a great guy don't give up

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Having traveled down the very road you have hitachi, let me give you some words from my experience. While you set up a very nice Mom's Day, you maybe got lost somewhere in the middle. You wanted to make the perfect day... but those days don't get made, they just happen. While the care and thought you put in to the plan was in earnest and with the best of intentions, it may have been overkill. You got YOUR hopes up too high and lost a little bit of your objective. You don't sound like a kid who had candy taken away, you sound like a really caring husband who loves and lusts for his wife. You got yourself worked up thinking you were going to give your wife fantastic sex. It happens. Jack off in the shower, then when she least expects it, ask her for some quick nookie. The spontanaeity will make her day maybe even more than the romantic evening.

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perfect JohnnyJohnson~ I was thinking the same thing but could not find the right words.

Sometimes the best gifts like "pamper mommy" days should not have expectations attached. Once you expect sex you kind of turn it into "pamper daddy" night. Now that you have given her such a lovely day I am sure when she does have the energy she will be ready to jump your bones

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