Try a week end away from ALL distractions, if that is something she might like. Show her you appreciate her friendship - you can even tell her you love her, if you can force the words out!

Word of warning; it is an unfortunate product of female/male interaction that women sometimes fight to dominate their men - and then lose all respect for them because they have been dominated. Catch 22 - sorry but there it is. Very difficult to get out of but you could make it clear (gently) what you will and will not do, and then stick to it. Helps if you can induce her to admit to being part of the problem.

Heart felt wishes of good luck. You HAVE to make this work together. Desperation on your part is a sure-fire killer.