My wife and I recently talked about her interest in wanting to experience another man(I am the only man she has been with, as far as I know). I am just wondering what are some of the experiences other men have went through and how they dealt with them. Thank you
Fireman20

fireman20,

Would that be in sequence, or at the same time?

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Sorry for being so vague, she is interested in trying a man separate from me. I think I understand what she is wanting and I think I am comfortable with our trust and respect for each other to help her experience this. I wonder what other men have felt or went through when their significant other tried this. I apologize if my words don't make sense, trying to work and fight a a virus today, I think the meds are helping a little.

Um, I"m poly, and so is my wife.

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It didn't dawn on me what "poly" meant in the other thread until you posted gekkogecko, thank you. That provided me with a little more insight. Right now, we are just talking, not sure how confident she is that she really wants to persue it. I hope to get some time to talk with her some more about the subject, but I don't want to seem like I am pushing her in this direction.

I'm speaking only for myself,everyone feels differently!My wife & I were married for 44yrs on May1.If she wanted to try another man,our marriage would be over!Maybe I'm old fashioned,but it works for us! Irish

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Fireman, it sounds like she is sending you a message and you need to pay attention. If you ignore it, that could push her in that direction without your approval/knowledge. You need to face the issue together. Discuss it and maybe do some internet research together. Pixies is a good start but you might try a site called swinglifestyle.com. You can do a search on your zip code without joining the site and that will give you an idea of how many other couples are into that sort of thing in your area. I think you will both be surprised at how many there are.
Personally I think you are a very lucky guy that your wife is thinking along those lines (I wish mine would). It could work out well for you two so long as you are doing this together with mutual love and respect and a desire to satisfy each other's desires and curiosities.
Good luck and please let us know how it's going.

Thoughts from a married woman...

Married blissfully for 14 years. Although he'd never admit it, about 3 years ago I brought up to my husband that maybe he'd like to try to have an affair? Or, we could try to find a "third" for a threesome, etc. I know he'd love to try to live out his 3some fantasy. What man wouldn't? But, he justs didn't seem to be very motivated. I dunno... cared too much about how I'd feel after? That's my guess. I finally suggested swinging. That way, we BOTH win. Swinging worked for us for a few years. Then we both eventually lost interest. And are currently a happy and still blissfully married couple. Neither one of us has any regrets, and if he wanted to go back to swinging, I'd be right there beside him. So, have you considered swinging?

Rottn to Pixies. It's good to see some input from a lady that has been there. That's much of what this place is about and in ALL kinds of matters in life. Not just the 'best' part of it.

And thanks for bringing this thread back to the top of the pile.

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