I am new to this forum, and I was enjoying the honest responses you all were giving; I have a question. I am an extremely shy BI, who's spouse is extremely supportive of my BI side, but I am the nervous one of bridging the gap (so to speak). Any suggestions on this point? I read one time where unless a women is ready to pay for her desires and needs, this may be a part of herself she may need to keep closed.