Having traveled down the very road you have hitachi, let me give you some words from my experience. While you set up a very nice Mom's Day, you maybe got lost somewhere in the middle. You wanted to make the perfect day... but those days don't get made, they just happen. While the care and thought you put in to the plan was in earnest and with the best of intentions, it may have been overkill. You got YOUR hopes up too high and lost a little bit of your objective. You don't sound like a kid who had candy taken away, you sound like a really caring husband who loves and lusts for his wife. You got yourself worked up thinking you were going to give your wife fantastic sex. It happens. Jack off in the shower, then when she least expects it, ask her for some quick nookie. The spontanaeity will make her day maybe even more than the romantic evening.

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I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed interstate commerce.

--J. Edgar Hoover