02-24-2007, 09:58 PM
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is it possible
for any two attractive people, sexual preferences considered, to have a completely platonic friendship?
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02-24-2007, 10:00 PM
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No, there can be a practical platonic relationship, but somewhere deep in the animal brain is the "Hmmm, a possible alternative breeding partner".
It's hard wired and ignorable.
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02-24-2007, 10:07 PM
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Did you not see when Harry Met Sally?
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02-24-2007, 10:18 PM
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not completely but mostly
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02-24-2007, 10:34 PM
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No, I don;t think so. One of my good friends is gay....and I know it...and I still want to jump him Talk about being hard wired.
My best friend is a guy, and it hasn't always been strictly platonic...although it is now that I am married.
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02-25-2007, 12:38 AM
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Geezzzzzzz...I've thought about this a lot before I replied and I was gonna say that women might be able to, but men can't. But I gotta say NO! No matter the gender or sexual orientation there will always be that miniscule fleeting moment where it will flash in the brain, "Hmmmmm...I wonder if...ahhh, maybe not".
I say NO...absolutely not!
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02-25-2007, 01:58 AM
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Dont think so, I've gotten close to getting in deep with best friend before.. somthing said I'd loose her as my best friend if I let it go any further so I couldent continue that way, were still best friends years later.
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02-25-2007, 03:32 PM
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I agree. You can be very platonic, but there's always going to be that animal instinct in there.
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02-25-2007, 06:41 PM
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Nope
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02-26-2007, 02:37 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by seminalfluid
Did you not see When Harry Met Sally?
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And having asked that...here's the interaction:
Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
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02-26-2007, 07:26 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by wyndhy
for any two attractive people, sexual preferences considered, to have a completely platonic friendship?
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It's absolutely possible for them to have the completely platonic friendship but if they are both attractive then I'm thinking the non-platonic thoughts are going to be that much more likely to creep in and thus increase the chances that the platonic thing goes right out the window, if only for a fleet moment. That's my theory on it anyway. I know I've had strictly platonic relationships with many very attractive ladies over the years. But you're talking about both parties being attractive right?
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02-26-2007, 09:15 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by IowaMan
It's absolutely possible for them to have the completely platonic friendship but if they are both attractive then I'm thinking the non-platonic thoughts are going to be that much more likely to creep in and thus increase the chances that the platonic thing goes right out the window, if only for a fleet moment. That's my theory on it anyway. I know I've had strictly platonic relationships with many very attractive ladies over the years. But you're talking about both parties being attractive right?
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platonic in the person's mind at the very least...having a sexual thought would make the relationship not completely platonic.
and when i say attractive ... well, that's all in the perception of the person looking, right?
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02-26-2007, 10:01 AM
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I wouldn't be friends with someone I didn't like, and I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't connect with on more than just a sexual plane. ( no snakes on a plane jokes please)
I think at some point, sex would be something we would both consider. Acting on those thoughts are a different thing altogether though. I don't know that I would go there. But I'm sure I'd think about it!
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02-26-2007, 11:26 AM
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Well 'attractive' is such a subjective thing. By its definition if you consider someone attractive then a relationship is not platonic in your head.
Having said that, I think I'm generally considered to be an attractive(ish) woman and I have a friend whom I also consider to be attractive, but our relationship is purely platonic and I could never imagine it being sexual. He's a very good looking straight bloke, but I do not find him sexy at all. Having said that, when I first saw him (performing in a play) I thought 'Oooh - he's nice' but as soon as I got to know him, those thoughts just flew out of the window.
That's not to say I don't flirt with him though. I flirt with everyone, girls included.
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02-26-2007, 12:37 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Loulabelle
Well 'attractive' is such a subjective thing. By its definition if you consider someone attractive then a relationship is not platonic in your head.
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I don't know...I can recognize someone as attractive without wanting to sleep with them. But I guess that statement limits attractive to a physical analysis. I can see a pretty or handsome person without wanting to have sex but if we're talking about attractive in a sense where I'm attracted to them (mind, body & soul) then see above answer. ha ha
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Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.
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