Men can cum once easily; ladies several times with a bit of practice and TLC. So it makes sense for the man to save it up for the Grand Finale. Unless, of course, he is going to cum twice.

Question : When do men want to cum twice?
Answer : Before they've cum once.

Poor men - so deprived of orgasms....

I usually try to help my wife to cum first because so often once it happens to me, it's hard for me to stay as focused as I would like to be. I'm afraid after it happens, it's far too easy for me to want to roll over and conk out.

Nothing will push me over the edge like my partner telling me he's about to cum, so that usually meant that my ex and i would cum together.

The only trouble is, i sometimes suffer from the same problem a lot of the boys say they have . . . sometimes after i've cum once, i just can't focus as well on giving him pleasure and after orgasm, my vagina seems to tighten up so if he's brought me off using his fingers or tongue, i really don't feel like being penetrated.

We found it worked best if he'd get me really close with fingers or tongue or both, then penetrate me and we'd usually cum together, because he couldn't usually last very long. That was probably my fault though because i just loved to watch and feel him cum inside me so rather than encouraging him to slow down and control himself, i just used to egg him on!

It did kind of make for rather short love making sessions though!

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'Don't knock masturbation - it's sex with someone you love'

- Woody Allen

i think it's interesting reading the men's posts and comparing them to the womens. it relates to the "do men talk post". by what men tell me i'm lucky to be average. i claim total adequacy and i usually cum first at least the first couple of rounds

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i'm funnier looking

Does it matter ? as long as someone does.... I come sometimes and he does sometimes and we both do a lot... but it doesn't matter whose first or sometimes together... sometimes I am first, middle and last! ....lol

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xoxox
Jackie

I always try to get her to cum first.. I like to finger her for awhile and get her to cum that way atleast once, after that she climbs on top of me and rides me till she cums, I try to get her to cum once or twice then we cum together... It's very Intense and Erotic for us!!
( you know you gotta love those climax control condoms)

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when I first started having sex I did and we would just keep goibng, then she did a little while later

I used to be able to cum 3 or 4 times a night, now im lucky if i can do 2, I always do 1. She cums 3 or 4 or 5 times before i do now...

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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

That's pretty much how it goes around here too ,although occasionally I'll get woken with a blowjob and not be expected to reciprocate. She usually gets her turn later in the day though,

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The Wombat : eats roots and leaves.

My SO tends to cum first....but always makes sure I follow

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"Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the 'Titanic' who waved off the dessert cart."~Erma Bombeck

As I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body she does.

I don't bother keeping track of time or the amount of orgasms my partners have as that takes concentration away from them. I beleive in giving your undivided attention to your partner and just tuning out the outside world no matter where you happen to be. (can also get you into trouble....) Anyways, mutual orgasm is also a wonder when it can be acheived but I have only a few experiences with this one as none of my "relationships" were actually the long term typed ones in the past few yrs. The only tip I can give here is to keep your body under control and to maximize your partners pleasure at any chance you get. Errogenous zones are relatively easy to find on any woman and thus you can assure her pleasure and of course your own. Excellent lovers are made not born, contrary to most peoples opinion.

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Life is Chaos,
Chaos is life,
The Heartless One

when we have oral sex, she is afraid to cum first, don't ask me why. Most of the time she gets me to cum first. She has been close a few times.

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I'm so romantic, I should marry myself.

I've found as the years roll on (Ahem!) my partner tends to cum first ...... not sure if it's age, experience, age...... LOL!

My current lady says cumming first is pretty new to her.. and she loves it! Must say, I do too!!

DM

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The selfish, they're all standing in line
Faithing and hoping to buy themselves time
Me, I figure as each breath goes by
I only own my mind

bump

Who's on first and I don't know is on 2nd base.

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Half of a set :halo:

I like to spend some tongue time on my lady and letting her cum first.

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wine is not the only thing that gets better with age...