I need advice especially from you ladies. I find myself in a funny situation with an old girl friend that I don't quite understand. She and I dated for a couple of years befor I met me wife. When we split up it wasn't exactly nice. She was a very jelous person and I couldn't take that anymore. I had my faults also but was always faithful to her. My wife and I have been married for over 13 years now and I haven't seen or heard from my ex untill recently.She is married also with 3 kids. Last Dec. she shows up at my mothers funeral. This was the first time I had seen her in 10+ years. At the time I gave it no real thought untill a couple of months (Feb?) later she sent me a "Thinking of you / hope you are well"card in the mail which I dismissed as just being friendly and thoughtful considering she knew how close I was to my mother. My wife was curious about her intentions but wasn't extremely upset about it. Now today she came to my office to see me. She stayed about 20 minutes and just made small talk about our kids, jobs , and life in general. At this point I am wondering what is going on. She lives 60 - 70 miles from me and just shows up out of the blue? Am I being parinoid? I am sure if I tell my wife about this visit it will upset her, which is probably justified in my opinion. So should I? Should I not and just hope no one in my office mentions it to her? Is my ex just being friendly or should I be suspecious (sp?) Thanks for any advice you can give and letting me vent.

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