I love my wife, and we love our children. Am I happy? Damn good question and depending on the day, week, month & year, the answer can vary from Definately, Pretty much, Somewhat or a flat out No I'm miserable. That's what marriage is like. I respect the vows I took and I try my best to make it work...every day. Some days I need to try harder than others.

That having been said, if ever a time comes when the answer to that question is always No I'm miserable, and I feel like I'm the only one trying, I'm going start thinking about how unhealthy our relationship has become. Unhealthy for me, her and our children. We owe it to ourselves, each other and the entire family to do what we need to do for the best possible outcome for everyone involved and if that means splitting up, then that's what we need to consider.

I do believe in honesty with your partner though. Mrs. WI once told me "If you fall in love with someone else, please tell me. Don't cheat on me, it would kill me. Just be honest with me." and that's something I've always remembered. If we ever get to the point where we discover it's not good for us or for the kids that we stay together, I would expect us to discuss it openly and though the fur may fly initially...we would figure out together what to do.

And as for only happily agreeing opinions mattering...well, I'm sorry I said those mean things Aqua. I'm jealous of your hair and sometimes I get spiteful.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.