So...I found out a friend of mine who has cancer has just been given very little time to live 0 to 6 months...and likely 2 months or less. We used to work close together and now I see him every few months or so. The cancer came last fall and was a huge surprise.

I have some fond memories with this buddy, and frankly he taught me a few things about being a leader. Also, I am always thrilled that he took a liking to me. He is a 'shop floor' guy and I'm a suburban kid who is an engineer and a manager. I am proud to be his friend. To be accepted and "one of the guys" to folks like that is heady stuff to me. He made a difference to me.

So what should I do? Do I send him a card with a "Thinking of you" etc (something light) or a short note with reflections? I mean I don't want to be a downer here (gee, I hear you're dying and I wanted you to know...)....So what is the right thing?