jenna i write these critisisms to hopefully be helpful and hope i express myself clearly and non-offensively. first your ad really doesn't give any idea as to what you enjoy. do you want to take drunken walks along the vegas strip? hoot and holla at wwe? fine dining? opera? would you run if i burp? second you totally call yourself ugly. first you say that you're overweight (hell lady 42c's naturally carry some belly unless they're full of plastic) then to look past your looks. first i might think you're hot (i in this case also refers to someone looking.) what's this tell me about your self-image.

i hope you can understand what i'm clumbsily typing and also that you understand i only wish to be helpful (i think it's called constructive critisism).

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i'm funnier looking

Jen - it may just be a slight cultural difference - but your very open and honest appraisal of yourself would be better in my eyes if you were to say that you are willing to find the right man who would make "my journey our journey".

Bon voyage.

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.

dz... I VERY much appreciate your opinion.. and your constructive criticism I will continue to re-work it.. and try to give a better understanding of who I am...

Vigil.. Thank you very much... I completely agree and am ashamed that I didn't think of it before now..

i wish there was someway to undelete bsbdd's ad (btw it was on yahoo) but she said looking for a longhaired thug for fun times and had a nice pic (made me drool). i was happy she chose to meet me. she showed me some of the responses she got and some seemed more fitting her description than me. also though there were many who fit exactly what she said not to reply.

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i'm funnier looking

There is a special on Online dating tonight on FOX at 9:00 EST. If anyone was interested....

darn it.. I missed it

Yea, I missed it too, maybe someone else caught it. good luck with everything, you are wonderfuk.

BigBoy

Best of luck Jenna, I know luck won't be necessary though. You're a darlin' and it shines in your words. Be picky...you'll find him....

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Well Jenna, my hope is that in a few years you will be sitting with some lucky bloke and he will whisper to you how lucky he was to have found you

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Wanted: Gorgeous blond unassuming, openminded, children ok, wity, intelligent, fondness for ridin'............must like horses, rodeos, lookis unimportant, but must also feel the same, and must have a certain degree of fondness for scruffy ole cow hands.

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Life's A Bitch, but I Deal withit!!

Thanks everyone for the kind words... the words of encouragement... and the constructive critisism.. believe me.. when I need the truth.. this is one of the first places I would think of coming.

Horseman... You know I have a fondness for riding and have a soft spot for the rugid cow hands (Not to mention I have always fantasized about...... oh nevermind *giggle*)

Jenna,

I am new here and it is all thanks to a very successful online dating story So I thought I would post and let you know that they can work. Last fall I decided it was time to get my social life going again and being a divorced single mom had no idea how to go about meeting people. Most of the people I know are married and only have married friends, not into the bar scene much myself, was not working outside of the home, and just approaching some random person at the grocery store is not my style . So I sat at my puter and put up an ad on Yahoo personals. I didn't even join...hehehe. You just can't respond to ads if you are not a paying member, but you can email back the people that respond to your ad. So anyway second or third response I had sounded very promising indeed. Or at least intrigued me enough to email him back with more than the cursory thanks. A few more emails and boy I was really intrigued. Then came the IM's and about 2 days later phone conversations. I never would have expected to give out my # so readily, but something just felt right. This is where it is okay to follow your intuition. We met in person about 10 days or so into talking everyday. I did take the precautions of meeting in a public place and making sure I let a friend know where I was going and with whom. And 3 months later here I am, so incredibly in love, more than I ever expected. And he found the key that unlocked the door not only to my heart, but to my deepest sexual fantasies. I believe we are just beginning to scratch the surface of what all of that means for me and us, and it is truly the most exciting time of my life. I too like you have been on a personal journey of discovery and am learning new things about myself each and everyday. And having someone open and honest and understanding to share that journey with is wonderful.

btw...he introduced me to pixies and I thank him for it! I think I am going to like it here. I certainly have so far

I hope hearing another success story helps. And I wish you luck both on your personal journey and on the potential of having a shared journey of your own.

Shoot! I can't believe I didn't see this thread until now!! I guess it had something to do with my house being without water for five days while this discussion was happening! I'm sure you have your answers already but here goes . . .

Posting pics online is a good idea because most men have been burned on phone systems. As we know from posting here, men are visual creatures They want to know what we look like before they e-mail, PM, IM, whatever. You can purchase time through reputable companies like mine for $14.99 and that'll give you loads of credits to use. You won't even need to purchase credits, though. As someone mentioned, the person who initiates the message pays. Women who post are pretty much guaranteed responses.

Honestly, I've had to go on my companies system and post profiles to learn about it and the responses I get are overwhelming! I wish I had enough single friends to hook up with the guys I hear from.

My company deletes negative profiles. Talk about all the positive things you have going for you. Seriously. People call into my system and say, "why'd you delete my profile?"

"Well sir," I'll reply. "You stated you didn't want black women, single mothers, anyone five pounds overweight, etc."

We're doing it for their own good, in a way.

My ex-husband actually uses the system for which I work. He said the worst thing about it was when he met people for coffee, they'd unload EVERY problem onto him. He said he understands that everyone has baggage but shit, he doesn't want to hear it on the first date!

The people who use these systems are usually busy professionals who don't like the bar scene. Feel free to PM me with any questions.

It's my Friday night and I'm talking about work!

Hi Steph...

Thanks for your response... I actually posted a pic... and the above bio... and got few or any responses... *sigh*... kinda given up....

Sorry you haven't had much luck Jenna, but I think it also depends on the site you use, as a woman you are pretty much in the driver's seat (even if you feel like you are on the passenger's side). E-mail me if you want to hear my long winded reasons lol.

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