I was her first, and seriously, sex is unfufilling at best. I find her attractive, but she's totally boring and not sexy. I've tried toys, porn, outfits, being spontaneous, fast, slow, and nothing works.

The one thing I can't get her to do is talk dirty. She's won't even try. The only things she'll say are "my knees are starting to get sore" and "you should hurry up"

What can I do to make her more sexy, and better at sex? Oh, I thought giving it time was the answer, and it's been 3 years.

Sexy inspires sexy. How sexy are you? She doesn't sound turned on, she sounds annoyed.

How's your relationship?

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naturalplastics,

It may be time for a different relationship.

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naturalplastics

This sounds all about you and not much about her.

Get her zinging and she'll blow your head off, but three years of

corrosive relationship will be hard to get over.

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What are her views on sex? Does she enjoy it or does she consider it a chore she has to do to keep you? Was she raised in an extremely uptight family? Does she think sex is dirty and something only enjoyed by "sluts". If you don't know the answers to these questions already this could also be part of the problem since that means you guys aren't talking about sex.

"This sounds like a failure to communicate"



.........Verbally and physically.

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good theories, all. Thanks for the input.

Communication is a big issue. She claims she doesn't know what she wants, and she's not really good at communicating, even if she did. She is pretty uptight I guess especially about talking.


The relationship's fine, aside from me getting frustrated occasionally, because she'd rather watch TV or play video games than do anything.

I can totally see the annoyed thing - she tends to get pissy when I try to start stuff without a bunch of notice, and then she puts it off with excuses until I'm too tired and grumpy.

I do appologize because I am in one of those frustrated moods.

It may just be that she's young and inexperienced. Women, even more than men, tend to "grow into" their sexuality over time...as they get comfortable with their bodies and who they are as people, and as they stop spending so much time trying to please others.

You can bear with her, encourage her friendships with older women, and invest time in trying to help her explore her sexuality. However, the majority of the inspiration must come from within herself.

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