Mind you I am not in any way encouraging it.... It's just Summer and I got to talking about dating and sex, and open marriages and sex, and naturally 3 somes and sex well you get the picture

What I am curious about is, when do you feel it is ok to have unprotected sex? Is there some criteria you use to make that judgement? When do you feel unprotected sex is OK vs. safe sex?

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when the condom you've been washing out for the past 2 weeks finaly gets a hole in it

seriously I guess it's when you both feel comfortable enough with eachother to take that step.

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Initially when dating and exploring each other protected sex is a must. I think it is a good idea to practice safe than take a chance. Once lines of communication and trust is established, then it would be a personal choice.

We have teenagers and when discussing sexual issues with them, we promote the ideal of safe sex. Our oldest son was starting to be sexually active at the age of 16.... we didn't approve, but we were of the frame of mind that he was probably going to continue so we had a sit down and discusses safe sex. We gave him condoms, I explained to him how to put one on (using a cucumber) etc. I also explained to him about a woman's cycle and what the times during that cycle that a woman could get pregnant.

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I think we'll only stop using condoms when we want to have kids. I can't stand the pill and the like so this is the best form of protection. We've been together a year now, we're disease free but still, a condom is used every time.

If I were to start swinging or a new relationship, I'd always insist on a condom.

I made my husband while we were just dating use a condom. And since I am latex/silicone sensitive he had to buy the special ones that cost more. I wouldn't have unprotected sex until he got tested for a wide panel of sexual diseases.

Maybe I am a bit overboard on it. But even when I got pregnant with my first child (and of course second one too) I had him and myself tested for HIV. I would have hated to pass something on to my innocent child.

My husband isn't worried about it at all. I guess I know to much of his past and um mine too.

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Well with my last 2 gf's it was about a month into the relationship.

I think if im in another relationship, that I wont take it off unless we both decide to go get tested.

Well I havnt used any type of protection in almost 4 years, had the plumbing shut off. But, then again the right type of sexual rainstorm hasnt come along that I would need a "jacket" in...

Btw, Summer I was so like you back when I was single. I was obsessed with protection, but not for std reasons, I was consumed by not getting someone pregnant.

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As the woman who is possibly the BIGGEST (tinest?) slut in Pixie's, I have very strong feeling about condoms.
(Puts on her sexiest nurse's uniform)
Please remember I am an RN (nurse) in a community access clinic, and dealing with people about pregnancy and disease prevention is a regular thing. However we, as a Church operated clinic, do not teach or prescribe BC pills, nor "officially" am I allowed to teach about condom use... (what the Sisters don't know won't hurt them)
Now...
1. If I am with a man who is new in my life, he has on a condom. PERIOD!!
2. If he wants oral sex, (every man does!) I will perform oral sex on him until I sense he is about to cum. I then offer to let him cum on my breasts, or put a plain (unlubed) condom on and then he may cum in my mouth. ( I have learned to tolerate the taste of rubber)
Vaginal sex is always with a condom, until he is tested, and I see the tests, as well as another set done at least 3 months earlier, and my belief that he has not had unprotected sex in those 3 months.
Frankly, very few of my relationships with men last that long...
( I buy condoms mail order, I got tired of smirking pharmacy clerks when I went the store and filled my purse with condoms)

3. I have a group of friends, " Fuck Buddies", men, women and couples, who limit their unprotected sexual activities to other people in the group. There is a HUGE amount of trust involved in this, and people have to be tested, and well known before they are part of the group. Most of us work in medicine or the military, and are tested regularly. There is a lot of swinging and swapping and so on, and we (the women) take pecautions against getting pregnant.
By the way, every 90 days I receive an injection of Depo-Provera, a contraceptive, to prevent pregnancy. This has had some very interesting side effects. I have not had a period in about 2 years. I learned that this is not unsual, and once I stop my injections, my menses will resume after 6 months to a year. I still get some very sexual intense feelings and urges about every four weeks or so **Blushing**
4. On those rare occasions when I allow anal sex.. CONDOMS ARE USED!!! PERIOD!!! I have not had anal sex without a condom since my marriage.
5. I get a test for syphyllis, HIV, and Hepatitis C every 6 months, and during my annual GYN exm, I am tested for Gonnorhea and Chalamydia as well.
6. In my sexual relationships with other women, toys are CLEANED between use, and if I have any worries about my partner's disease status, I just limit our contact to kissing, touching and "manual sex" ( fingering) with hand washing after...
Gonorrhea syphyllis, and chlamydia CAN be shared between women, especially while sharing toys.
I never knowingly have sex with bisexual men. I apoligize to the gay and bi men here, I love you all, but the added risks, given my risks already part of my sexual lifestyle, are just too great.
(removes the nurses uniform, and nude, stretches)

Sex is still fun, even with all these precautions, believe me!!!

Sexually ,

Wanda

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Wicked Wanda, I know you said that you've grown accustomed to the taste of rubber. However, if you would like to use a brand that has absolutely no taste whatsoever of rubber, get the Trustex brand of flavored condoms. Unlike the Kiss of Mint condoms, which taste like breath freshener sprayed on a car tire, the Trustex brands taste only like vanilla or cola or whatever. I don't really care if a condom has a flavor, but it sure is nice to NOT have to taste rubber.

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Hmmm, I've recently come to the conclusion, that, as a woman, I completely hate the taste and feel of condoms. I too am latex sensitive, so my partner purchases polyurethane condoms, but, well, we tend to go through them a bit fast. ^_^ Since they are not exactly cheep, they are breaking the bank a bit. Our options are somewhat limited due to the fact that I have asthma and was informed that most pill form contraceptives have a good chance of aggravating my condition. Also, my doctor refuses to even consider any type of permeant contraception, since I am only 21, even though I do not want children and live in mortal fear of becoming pregnant. Also, health and safety are not an issue with my partner, it’s pretty much just the whole pregnancy thing. Wanda, since you seem fairly knowledgeable about this topic, what do you recommend is my best course of action? Or does anyone else have any ideas for that matter?

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Unprotected sex?

Does that mean Luigi and Bruno with the shotgun have to stay

in the car?

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As we are sharing intimate secrets, I must admit that I often visit Pixies for some one-handed typing AND I'M NOT WEARING A CONDOM! Is that living dangerously or what?

unprotected sex is ok if you really love your partner and its not just like a random fuck or a fuck buddy. my gf and i have done it unprotected a few times and i really enjoyed it (i think she did too). its kindofa different feeling (in my opinion) when its skin on skin rather than skin on rubber

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IceLore,
I am sorry, you are asking a question that is so far beyond my education. Only a Doctor, Nurse Practioner or a Physician Assisitant could answer that. I am a lowly RN (smile)
Bit you might want to get a second opinion, maybe see an asthama specialist?

WW

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