I have never posted here before but everyone seems so open, I figured I would give it a try.

I have a big problem. I have been with my bf for a few years now, and we have an amazing sex life...both of us are willing to try anything, and have had sex pretty much every way I think it's possible...but I have NEVER come. Not during oral sex, not during regular sex, not even masturbating by myself, or using a vibrator. I think about sex constantly, and my boyfriend is very attentive to me and will do anything to please me, so I haven't wanted to tell him that I haven't ever come. Sometimes I get that...I dunno, that ticklish feeling many people describe, but I don't feel like I can let go enough to just relax. I dunno what my problem is! Grrr.

HELP ME!! :redghost:

I think you’re looking in the right direction from what you’ve said. We do have some great ladies that can talk straight to you here.

And welcome to Pixies.


(Cum on ladies…………….. you can help the girl)

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Sounds like a mental block. Are you worried about anything? getting pregnant, bills, incest, or life position? You might look inward at yourself and see if there is anything your putting infront of you before come. Clean up those issues no matter how hard they are to deal with and you might be able to let go enough to just enjoy yourself and let your body climax. That tickelish feeling is probubly the right direction, then you might controlling yourself out of it...why? Just my 2 cents...I am not a shrink

cherrychick

you will, but as above, sex is as much in the head as the hips.

relax and think about your orgasm, guide him to touch/lick the places that feel right, especially nr the clit, - tongues work well here. take it slow and gentle, make sure you are relaxed and get turned on slowly - loys of gentle caressing, get wet and then move to touching his cock and your pussy.

oh - enjoy!
wildeye

CherryChick - the answer is in your hands! Practice, practice, practice by yourself first. Don't go for an orgasm, just let yourself have a good time. Glass of wine, shower, hop into bed at 8 in the evening with an erotic book, and just stroke that pussy while you read. You'll soon figure out what works for you. Once you do, expand your repetoire a bit with different positions, something inside you, vibrator etc. That way you won't get fixated on just one method - important if you want to enjoy all sorts of things later.

Once you are confident that you can give yourself an orgasm, then your boyfriend stands a chance of doing the same thing. If he finds it difficult, let him see you doing it (mutual masturbation is fun!). He should be able to figure out what to do.

And then, the sky's the limit!

I think PF is on the right track, I think the ladies would be much more helpful than a bunch of guys telling a woman how to cum

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Thanks for all the advice...I must say, someone advising me to masturbate a lot is never a bad idea.
We'll see how it goes!

Cherry

CherryChick, no advice is free. We expect regular updates and will watch this space.....