^^^^ It's good to see you here again MM. Hopefully things will change for you and the frustration will come to an end.

MM- empty your box.. you are out of space!

oh if you say so.

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hungry? why wait.....eat me.

Have you tried fetlife.com. There are events and meetings and individuals that like different stuff. It’s a place for like minded people to meet. Try it out. I’m on there.

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DAMN, YOU ARE A SEXY ONE-skipthisone

I beleive in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve, and I beleive in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. Kevin Costner/Bull Duram

"Your body as well as mine has needs. This is juat a little foreplay to highten our desire for each other. If we play out the game of love to it's natural conclusion, you'll experience fulfillment. Give yourself up to me and I'll guide you along the path to pareadise. Together we will be like fire and ice, love and hate, life and death." Virginia Henley

WANTED: a moment when you kiss someone and eveything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and this person and you relize that he is the only person your suppose to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this amazing gift. You want to laugh and you want to cry. Cause you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared it will all go away at the same time.

still frustrated though

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DAMN, YOU ARE A SEXY ONE-skipthisone

I beleive in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve, and I beleive in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. Kevin Costner/Bull Duram

"Your body as well as mine has needs. This is juat a little foreplay to highten our desire for each other. If we play out the game of love to it's natural conclusion, you'll experience fulfillment. Give yourself up to me and I'll guide you along the path to pareadise. Together we will be like fire and ice, love and hate, life and death." Virginia Henley

WANTED: a moment when you kiss someone and eveything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and this person and you relize that he is the only person your suppose to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this amazing gift. You want to laugh and you want to cry. Cause you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared it will all go away at the same time.

I remember reading somewhere that guys reach their sexual peak in thier late teens to mid 20's. And women tend to peak out in their later 50's to mid 60's. i think i have the ages right. Read this years ago but even if i'm off on the ages i think we can clearly see its not equal and it isn't fair to ether sex.

i know what you mean when you say your clit gets overly sensitive and you just have to stop. It gets so it almost hurts instead of just climaxing. When you plan to 'have a date' with your toys, don't put alot of pressure on yourself to cum. Just go to bed and slowly and gently explore your body. Don't plan on cumming. Get worked up but STOP when it even feels close to cumming. Put your hand over your pussy and just hold it until it calms down. Then sometimes it will be ready to cum. If it stays to sensitive, just say 'dates over'. and go about your day.

Also, are your toys water proof? It might be helpful to play in the tub. Go slow, don't aim for the climax to be the goal, just make yourself relax and feel good.

Just remembered something about over use of toys. You can use them to much and become overly sensitive. So they say take a break from them and just use your fingers, The fast vibes and the length of time and force they are used basically is saying go easy, gentle and slow.

Good luck. Have fun.

I replyed to this and then read the post you started more recently. I think i would have said it differently then i did. But who knows.

women peak (the sexual hormones are at their highest concentrations) in late 30s to early 40s. sexual frustration or its kissing cousin sexual arousal comes and goes for me but has a baseline, low-simmer setting

finding a serious relationship, tho, is seemingly elusive - especially with guys (a bit easier with another girl). hookup culture with lil to no commitment is well-entrenched. three years ago, i mentioned the "m" word to the bf of two years - i prefaced the mention by saying it was nothing serious and was only curious (truly); less than a week later, i was dumped by him for being too controlling (he was 30 and i was 27 yo).

i'd say whateves (i was DEF not controlling), buuut - those sayings about a biological clock...? I FEEL them (then again, i've always wanted a family). and as each year slips away, the pull is that much more intense... until i find - that person, tho, the magic wand is my bestest buddy

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"we're older but no more the wise... we learn the art of compromise" - suzy bogguss

Well, I turned 72 yesterday, equipment still works but it’s mostly solo these days.

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