Thanks for your feedback guys!

Casper - i've asked him all those questions and he can't satisfacorily answer any of them. I've been working on that kind of approach since February and it seems to have reached this, er, crescendo.

I've always had a 'don't mess with someone in a relationship' kind of attitude, but now i'm really faced with it it's difficult. He is not pressuring her into sex, but i know that is an issue and believe it or not, i've even tried to suggest ways in which to get her to open up a little more sexually, but to be honest, she's got so much to learn about sex. I happen to know that she doesn't masturbate and really doesn't seem to have any kind of sexual energy, as it were, so even if they did have sex i think it would probably be disastrous!

I think i'll just have to wait and see what happens. To be honest, now that we've sussed each other out in terms of how much we want each other, i think he's going to do his utmost to avoid me so that he can't be tempted. It's so complicated!!!!!