You are a very open-minded couple, so there should be no problem

in telling him about the others.

Your desire for him to have a fling with a girl (of your choice) strikes

me as nothing less than damage control, to lessen your own guilt.

If you had the open relationship you speak of, your time with the

others would not be an issue.

Either 'fess up and see how strong the relationship really is or

wait and see how long it takes the relationship to implode.

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