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Originally Posted by Loulabelle
First of all.....I think it might do you good to spend time as a woman Jaybee, so that you could appreciate that a woman gets erect nipples, not because she's sexually aroused but because it's bloody cold in the office (usually, because the men have control of how much air con is on, and men always seem to be warmer than women!).
Secondly, your man walking through the office with a hard-on, is not behaving in a manner which is appropriate to the office envirnment, just as a woman walking along, complaining that her tampon is uncomfortable, or that she's got thrush is not appropriate behaviour for the office. Incidentally, by the way, I don't wear sleeveless vest type tops in the office in the summer no matter how hot it is (although many of my other female colleagues do) because I have particularly large breasts, and I don't feel it's appropriate to show too much of them at work, while my colleagues are more subtly proportioned and do not look indecent in the same type of garment. The reason I do this? Because I realise that not everyone wants to go about their daily business looking at a vast expanse of my flesh. Likewise, no matter how good looking the bloke in question is, I don't want to see his cock making a tent in his trousers at work! It's what they call 'too much information' about someone!!!
As for appreciating the male sexuality, I think that most women, in the UK at least, do have an appreciation for it, and would argue that men still have little regard for OUR sexuality. The double standard of polygamous women being 'sluts' while their male counterparts are 'just being men' is still rife, female masturbation is still a tabboo subject and on a more personal level, how many men in the uk, continue giving their partner sexual pleasure after they themselves are sated. I know from my point of view that the one thing I like after a great session of sex, is a bit more sex a few minutes later, but how many men even bother to try to get an erection when their women are still craving more? We're capable of orgasm after orgasm, but because men aren't, we are often denied. Not much of an appreciation for OUR sexuality, in my opinion!
Likewise, did you know that when a woman is sexually aroused but not brought to orgasm, it takes 12 hours for that sexual arousal to subside completely, whereas with men, once their erection has gone, their sexual arousal has finished? When you think of all of the thousands of women who have faked it at one time or other while their partner has rolled over and gone to sleep, it puts it into perspective don't you think?
And if women do tut at a man openly displaying his sexuality, do you wonder why? Might it be a touch of jealousy that for centuries women's own sexuality has been kept securely under lock and key, and to an extent still is? How would you feel if women started to bleed freely when they were menstruating, rather than risking using a tampon and getting TSS? Surely that's us expressing a perfectly natural part of our sexuality? Hell, a lot of the time women find themselves breast feeding their babies in public lavatories, because people tut at them if they try to do it elsewhere, despite laws in the UK stating that they are allowed to do it anywhere they like.
I'm sorry, but while I can sympathise that there are constraints put on your sexuality, I'd like to remind you that there are constraints put on all of us, and as others have said here, they are for the sake of showing respect and courtesy to the other people with whom share the planet. Not unreasonable, in my opinion.
End of rant.
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Ok,
When I said appreciation for male sexuality, I was speaking here of expression between non-Pixies. Many women, sadly, fear the sexual urges of strange males, and that CANNOT be healthy. Yes, I know the imbalance stems from the fact that we're a lot stronger than you, but regardless, I'm making the point that any imbalance isn't good for either gender. Men were made stronger than women to aid procreation, but ironically, this imbalance has the opposite effect in modern society, and actually means we get less - both men AND women.
Point about the women who express being misperceived as 'slut's well taken, of course. I've seen it for myself. Not sure I agree with we men just 'rolling over' after sex. Nobody knows what the heck goes on in all bedrooms up and down the land, but after talking with a lot of my pals, I'm guessing there's a sea-change in progress. I spent weekends with my last girlfriend doing very little but eating, drinking, and lovemaking. I'm still an oral virgin, but then, I'd have no qualms about going down on my future girlfriend after the event, for as long as she wants me there. Heck, if she wants me to start eating her out at 8am on Saturday morning with a hangover, I won't quit until sunset. I'm a loyal trooper...
Didn't know about the 12 hour period of slowly decreasing arousal in women (thanks for letting me know), but looking back, it makes sense. We blokes do also have a degree of afterglow as well, albeit to a much lesser one; if I found the sex utterly mindblowing, there have been times when she's simply given me a slow kiss a few minutes later, and that is that - the pleasure of the sex was so intense, and the memory of it still vivid, and the kiss such a warming reminder of it that I'm ready again, at full power.
But you know, while I think the breast-feeding laws are spot on correct, a lot of women apply the same discretion with them that you do when you dress for work. You're (fortunately) a big, healthy lass, but perhaps you'd rather not send out those signals at work. Why not? Because you may wish to maintain a businesslike impression, or you are tired of fending off constant advances, or you're a considerate lady. Perhaps all three, and maybe more. But certainly because you'd be misperceived, I'd hazard. Same with us guys. And ironically, although a woman in a bar MAY be thought of as a slut if she sidles up to some hunk and says, "My place. Sex?", if you reverse the roles, you'd find the chances of him throwing his beer in her face is almost zero.
What grates me is that, all my life, I've only ONCE heard an unfamiliar woman express understanding for a mans natural yearnings (at least, not on sex site!) , and then it was only in a song! Whereas I've heard lots of guys - believe it or not - express appreciation for the female libido. My point is that, although we men have always been less fearful of your sexuality than you were of ours, as time moves forward we are now (and consequently and increasingly) more accepting of yours than you are of ours. It's fear - logical, but nonetheless unhealthy fear - of men that constrains you, and also means we don't get as much...
Jaybee.
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