The qualifiers are certainly a necessary addition, although I'm not sure why you feel the need to apologise, ever, for stating a fact... If the guy is the 'Diet Coke Break' type, no problemo. If unattractive, the chances of an email winging its way to his bosses (and HR's) Inbox go up by a factor of a thousand. Reversing the roles, if a fat, sweaty lady walks through Accounts to drop off some paperwork, her visibly erect nipples will elicit ZILCH in the way of consternation.

Consternation...that's the point. Most women, to varying degrees, fear the male sex drive, or rather its possible consequences. Not a healthy state of affairs in the modern day. Most men find unwanted female sexual attention, at worst, a very mild irritant that is very quickly forgotten. I did a training course recently, and one of the delegates was an enormously obese woman who took a hankering to my big brown eyes and my nice, BBC accent. "Oooh Jay, I just luv your voice, they don't talk like you round my way!!"

She'd take every opportunity to brush past me when it was glaringly obvious she could and should have taken quicker routes. She'd ask me intimate questions that were quite 'inappropriate' for a relative stranger. She'd fall forwards onto me in the lift, breasts touching chest, 'accidentally'...the list goes on.

Now, swap 'he' for 'she' and 'man' for 'woman' in the above two paragraphs, and read them again.

Now, I wasn't OFFENDED, I simply pitied her. Nobody should have to go without, regardless of size/shape etc. I understood that her needs weren't being met, and acted accordingly.

But, imagine if the roles were reversed...


Jaybee.