Ginger, as usual, has spoken well on the matter. The video idea is a very good one, and may serve to let your wife in on the fantasy you're having. Or mayhaps it will give you a clear signal that this one is to be enjoyed by yourself. Good luck and please let us know if you are able to bring it up with her.

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