Lou,
The point I was trying to make with the second paragraph was not that I would, or even that a significant number of men would judge a woman based on her breast size. The point I was trying to make was that breast size and penis size are different issues for a number of reasons. A man approaching a woman almost certainly already knows and approves of or at the very least accepts her breast size before she has invested emotionally in him. The same is not true of penis size, unless men were to walk around in Speedos with erections in public (I'm sure you'd hate that
). I can understand that you would be scared at what I wrote but it is my thought that
if a man was hung-up on breast size (not that I am suggesting that many are) and found yours undesirable you would probably never know, because he can discern this, with an acceptable margin of error, without ever saying a word to you. I am certainly not suggesting women in general to be shallow, either; hell, there are so many wonderful women here that I'd have to be going around with my eyes closed to believe that. I just think that some peoples' equation of penis size anxiety to breast size anxiety is short-sighted.
I'm certainly aware that erotic fiction is not real life. But do they not represent the desires of the writer or intended audience?
I was not suggesting that men should always abandon the pursuit of their partner's orgasm to save their egos. But, I do think that men who feel eager to please are more likely to be anxious about the size of their organs being insufficient. The attitude I suggest is not one of indifference to the woman's pleasure "right off the bat", but more of a "So you say it was bad because my dick's too small? Fine, I don't care" attitude, just as you might dismiss a person who finds your face ugly.
kathy,
What you said about "woohoo big'un" comments was pretty much what I was saying in my first paragraph. By no means do I suggest all women think they need a big dick, merely that those that like to shout it from the rooftops should perhaps engage in some introspection. I absolutely agree with you with regard to what the media seems to portray as ideal. But, I am observing the sentiments I speak of from women who are not participants in the media. So I think it is a different phenomenon. I am sorry if what I wrote appeared to tar women with a broad brush.
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Oh, and yes, err...subjects for the upcoming experiments may register here
