There have been times when I thought I'd be able to make it happen despite my mood just to be reminded how much of a mental creature I am. No comments from the peanut gallery please! Mind you, I don't have to be horny out of my mind to have an orgasm...in fact, if I'm anything but totally stressed out and miserable I can usually work myself out of my funk and have a good time. And more importantly...be able to focus on Mrs. WI with the love and enthusiasm sex deserves. So I don't know if this helps or not. ha ha

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.