Thanks for all your advise i get the feeling sweetlady has had it happen to her ???,sounds a very bitter hurt person.
Firstly if you realised that you and your partner had out grown your marriage and you were both unhappy and were only together because of your kidz is that right ???, how could you look back in say 5 / 10 yrs and think we should have done this and we should have done that but stayed together just for the kidz and been bloody miserable , you only live once and if your not happy you change it, life is what you make it, as for the kidz im still their dad and always will be i want to be with them everyday but i`ll be happier and i know the wife will be happy no argueing etc fresh start.
all i asked was ive made my new start is there a easy way to break it to the mrs.