#1, everytime.

Whatever you do you're going to hurt someone, you'd may as well face up to your responsibilities and tell her the whole situation - she'll end up finding out sooner or later anyway, and at least you will keep some dignity and respect if you're a man about it.

When you tell her she's going to be upset and she's going to say hurtful things and I suggest that you take it, rather than trying to defend your position. After all, you are in the wrong, by having been unfaithful, so there's not point in trying to justify yourself or lay the blame at her door.

We can't help the way we feel and it's futile trying to resist it, so I suggest you try to make the cleanest break you can, and hope that in time your wife will see that you did the best you could under the circumstances. She'll at least be glad that she didn't catch you out or hear from someone else, which would be the ultimate humiliation for her.

Good luck and I hope you and your new woman can make a good start in your new life together.

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