I was hoping someone would notice that I said there was no easy way out...this I know from nearly 30 years of my own marriage, & that nearly all our friends have been thru divorces...some several times. Some marriages just can't be saved, & it's hard to stay & just as hard to go...& while the truth should never be used as a weopon,(as GingerV described in her dad's case) I can say that the only way my own marriage has lasted this long is that we always were able to face the harsh truths about ourselves when push came to shove...

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