07-11-2004, 10:29 AM
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Originally Posted by sweetlady
Actually, why do so many marriages collapse nowdays? Because there is no longer any stigma associated with divorce. Oh, you don't like her anymore? Okay, go find a new one. There's no expectation put on people to stick it out and make it work. Instant gratification is the flavor of the day. And lives are torn apart and wrecked and tossed aside in the drive for a thrill.
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You need to look at the real world, not an illusion.
My wife comes from a culture with a far more traditional view of marriage. She used to be horrified at the amount of divorce she saw here. However, as the years have gone by she's come to see that it works better than what she was used to.
Yes, divorce is common here. There's nobody here we know with a working marriage that's lasted longer than ours. (There are some people we have drifted out of contact with that very well might still be married.) However, looking over her relatives--there's only one divorce. However, there's also only one working marriage. There's one who is living with someone other than their spouse (contrary to the law there, he could go to jail for it.)
What's better--to divorce and find someone you can be happy with, or to remain in a failed marrriage and ensure that neither of you are happy?
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