07-11-2004, 09:30 AM
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Originally Posted by sweetlady
Do you not care that one day he will realize what he has done? Do you not care that one day, he must face this again when the infatuation is gone again? Do you WANT him to one day realize that he is just reliving the same pattern over and over and to be miserable? Care enough to be honest, care enough to stand and tell him that it's not taht simple. Instant gratification never lasts.
Real, genuine love, lasts. Infatuation is just fun, and only for a while.
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To acuse people of not caring simply cause they do not publicly condemn someone is ludacris. Do you know what happens to people who need support and advice and all they get is bitched at and told how wrong they are????? I do and I had to make a post about it a week ago.
Do you think it truly helps the underlying cause/ aspects of the situation? I am not going to argue with you because I have seen that many of your posts have this similar tone, so it's obviously just that you have a very different opinion than I do about how people should be treated. You don't know him or anyone else here well enough to tell them that you know what the only answer is. We all offer suggestions and opinions but most know that the most important thing is to keep communication open for people here and just chewing people out does not facilitate that. A public chastising closes people down and causes them to feel defensive or stop talking. It's why in general the people here avoid it. And that's why people turn to us for help. |