I am going through an almost identical dilemma myself, and do not have the answers either. Therefore, I will be reading the advice right along with you! Best of luck man, it is a VERY tough situation that we are in!!!

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I wish all the ladies were pies on the shelf...and I was the baker because I'd eat them all myself.
I wish all the ladies were potholes in the road...and I was a dumptruck because I'd fill them with my load.