I figured this the place to ask a question that's been plagueing me for the better part of 4 yrs and has just come to a head recently,... Just to let you know I'm fresh out of college and one of those years I roomed with a good friend... now this good friend was in my "frat" and is a truely good friend, and unfortuneatly for me I met his g/f from HS... a little background she dated him since she was a soph in HS, I graduated the same time as her, however he is a year older than her. I know it seems like small change to a few, but for now just realize that it's bigger for me. I got to know (we'll call him B)B and (we'll call her M)M for an entire summer of cookouts and drinking... and I mean every night I was with them for a 3 month period... Even then B was not very nice in M in public (however I hear in private that might be different and everyone knew it). Fast forward a year she breaks up with him, FUCKING up his whole world, and I saw it in his eyes.. truely you'd just have to know him to see the confusion and hurt in his eyes, his everything was gone, and you have to realize usually this guy shows no emotion. They get back together when he agrees to change, and he does.... for a year... and now it's back the same thing.. however he's 100 lbs heavier, she's 20 lighter, and I'm 30 lbs lighter. Now during this time we have formed one hell of a small group of friends. "We" as in M and two other really close friend have been having a blast for the past few months because B refuses to leave his nearby hometown because of various seethrough excuses. Most of the excuses include "His dog", "Class projects" (oh by the way in school he was a year older than myself and M, and both of us graduated a year before B, B was a fulltime student the whole time, and we were graduated ontime), M and I have been "REALLY" good friend for 4 yrs now and I can say right now I have never been so comfortable with someone in my entire life, and I can't deny the physical side that is there very much. She and I mess so very well that it's just plain wrong that we can't be a couple. And B has been screwing up time and time again for 2 years.

And now my question,... How can I, or Should I,...
Break up an 8yr relationship, and in so doing shaking up the fabric of ALL of our close friendships (btw ALL of our friends are so very close and it would create a rift) or should I pursue the girl that I know and have known for a few years now that she is the perfect girl for me and I'm rather certain she agrees.

Something to take into mind, I might have accidentally told her I loved her in a "non-serious" way and she has called me thrice since then...

But if he doesn't have her he emotionally and mentally is nothing... but still a guy I like hanging out with, and don't wish to hurt,...

But I can honestly say I love her... and have said so for the better part of 2 yrs...

Complicated I know, and I appreciate you sticking around for the finaly... and I hope you will leave some feedback, and maybe an answer for me.... GOD I need help.... PLEASE