ouch, that's awful harsh babe unfortunately, i'm kinda skittish about sex due to having a couple bad relationships where sex was more of a power thing than a good loving thing. so now i can't admit in a relationshipo to liking anything other than "normal" missionary type sex, so he doesn't turn it around and tell me it's wrong/sick/gross/weird. the guy i'm with nowwoiuldn't, but breaking old habits is a bitch. feeling vulnerable and having someone hurt you emotionally while you are is a really really sucky feeling. *hugs*

i love playin with a guy a little anally...not penetration so much as just rubbing and licking and maybe teasing him with a vibrator. because i know it feels good. but my new guy is a lil freaked by it, and he's told me so, so i don't play with him much. every now and then i'll rub or brush lightly over his ass and up under his balls with my fingertips or drag the tip of my tongue over the same area. if he decides he wants me to stop and play, cool, if not, that's ok too