Thanks guys...I have really been thinking about this and i think the lust was clouding my mind......i sat down and talked to him the other day and told him how i felt....the first thing that came out of my mouth was you dont even take off your ring when we are together so you still have feelings for her or want to stay in your marrage.....he told me no that he just forgets to take it off...and i said BS!!! I also told him that i hate that I cant call him...cant go out on dates...have to hide everything from almost everyone....cant just pop up at his house.....and so on.....so i told him until he has balls and moves out of the house then it is over....i cant deal with all the drama..i have way too much in my life already.....well he keeps calling me and telling me how much he loves me...well i stopped saying i love you to him to see if he gets the hint...the next step for me is to stop answering his calls.....

Buffy