Buffay,

I’ve read what all the others had to say and I had to write. I am on the other end of the situation myself. I'm the wife. It’s "the grass is greener on the other side” for my husband. I've invested way too much in my marriage just to let go without trying to make it work. Kids aside; he and I share a great deal of time together, and we have a good time together. We work well together and enjoy our time together. Our problem is lack of communication. He never wanted to leave me, but he had a hard time talking to me. Which in turn lead him astray. We are now working on rebuilding our relationship. But it is still hard for me to over look his past affairs. As hard as it is to leave a great Love, I would get out of that situation and let him know that if he really wants to be with you and not his wife, get a divorce. But don't sit around and wait for him. Go out have fun. Just watch out for the married ones. Believe me, it’s not worth all the drama for any of you. Nevertheless, if he does divorce his wife to be with you, you will still have his wife around no matter what. Kids ALWAYS come first. Can you handle the wife being hostile with you if it comes to that? I know I would not be very happy to send my children off with their father knowing that the person he left me for will also be around my kids.