I think you've missed the point entirely .... most of what has been said to you has not been in agreement. However, none of us is able to change your mind about who you are and what you have to offer, you have to do that yourself.

I can say that looks don't matter nearly as much to most women as they do to most men .... that's not positive or negative, just a difference in brain chemestry. But for the most part, women are looking for men with a sense of humor, a sense of purpose and who know how to listen and care about them as an individual. If you can bring those to the table, we'll put up with an inordinate amount of "negative" stuff. Did your ex tell you she left you because of your looks and lack of a job, or have you assumed that because you believe the new guy is better looking and has a job? Did she tell you other things that maybe you just didn't want to hear and so you decided they weren't part of her decision.

Lack of a job, however, is a fairly important issue to most women, because we need to know that the man in our life is willing to at the very least work with us in moving towards certain goals, buying a home, supporting a family, putting kids through college, etc.

I'm not here to judge you, just trying to give you some insight, you cannot and will not change who the women are, but you can make changes in yourself .... you are not destined to be alone, but if you aren't willing to make changes to move away from being alone, you may end up alone. But then as I said before, you may end up alone anyway, there are no guarantees in this life, except that if you keep doing what you've been doing, I can pretty much guarantee that your results aren't going to be different than what you've had in the past.

K, I'm off my soap box now, I wish you well in pursuit of what you want.