We've gone through other discussions of negative things in a person's life at the site and most of us are here because we want to be of help to others, as well as a fun perv now and then ...

One of the biggest things to learn in dealing with any such painful issues is that you are not alone ... there are many others who have gone through similar things and the more you are aware of that and the more you are able to open up about such things, the closer you come to getting beyond them causing so much pain. Vent as and how you need ... in public or by PM ... whichever you are most comfortable with.