It must be Spring...this sort of thing seems to be popping up all over. A similar conversation started up over drinks last night...and I wished you'd been there to hear it.

The only part I really remember was something a guy there said. Smart guy, who I know won't hate me for paraphrasing him...even if I don't do it well. He said that from watching friends screw up in a hundred different ways over a long life he knew 2 things. First, men don't leave their wives for other women. They may make sure they've got a new harbor ready to dock in before they leave a marriage...but they don't EVER leave FOR the new woman. They leave because they want out of the old marriage....a lot of women who thought they were lovers were actually just excuses. Second, if a man is really truly unhappy enough to leave a marriage....he leaves it. If he doesn't leave his wife, then he's not as unhappy as his excuse (his word) is being told. Dragging out a departure just means there's something that's still worth staying for.....but guys aren't dumb, they're not going to tell the other woman that.

My most sincere appologies if it sounds harsh or hurts. But it helped the girl last night, however much she hated hearing it. I thought it might help you.

G