All I can say is you do what you have to do ... And SS I know you are doing whats right for you and have no need to apologize or feel ashamed of it. I have had many of the same problems (which you well know) and deal with it in the ways that I do. Have I ever had sex with a married person? Yes I have. I do not apologize for it or regret it. Have I had sex outside my marriage? Yes I have but my husband has known about it beforehand in the instances which it occurred and I knew of his experience outside of marriage. I do not think everyone should just go out and have sex with someone other than thier spouse but only you can decide what you can do and live with and what can make or break your marriage. There have been long stretches (although not quite as long as SS) that my hubby has not been interested in sex at all due to both mental and physical constraints and in those times I have weighed my options and did or did not do what I felt I needed to do. So just remember don't judge another til you walk a mile in his moccasins (or in this case go without sexual contact for long periods of time )

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