I've done the usual things: prepare a bath with candles and a glass of wine, roses delivered to the office, loving note in the car. But they all seemed so calculated. I didn't mean for them to be, but they just did. The simple things that come naturally, without thought. Random acts that show you're paying attention to your loved one. When you're cooking supper, remember that she likes her pork chops bland! ha ha Put a new bar of soap in the shower, and refill the toilet paper, for crying out loud! Ok, so that's not romantic...how about noticing that she looks chilly and bringing her a blankie without being asked. Or fixing hot chocolate on a cool evening. Remember that cd she mentioned a few months back? Get it for her, just because. No special trip, "just thought of you and took a look for it while I was there and found it on sale". You know how much she likes to visit antique stores? Suggest taking a day this weekend to spend meandering through an area she likes to go antiquing in. Or how about a short drive through an area with nice scenery and a bowl of chowder before heading home?

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.