Lixy, to answer your questions, the tears are not up inside, they are near my clitoris on my inner lips. I wear tampons but my period was last month on the 23rd. so they didn't do the tearing. his penis did. lube is not a problem. when we are together i get very very wet. it's like opening a flood gate. yes he wears condoms from time to time. i am on the pill.