I think the topic is being looked at from the wrong direction. People who are cheating (electronically or physically) are not in healthy and happy relationships. Cheating is a symptom, not the cause. It might be the catalyst for divorce, like "the final straw", but I don't know how many marriages without problems have been brought down by cybersex alone. They make it sound like if you are sitting at your computer looking up the lyrics to church hymns and click an email link that lands you on a porno site, you will somehow be sucked in (despite your strong and loving marriage to a wonderful partner) and wind up divorced. Damn evil internet! I agree that with the internet, pornographic images and illicit online rendevous are easier, but people don't end up there by accident, like stepping into a puddle of quicksand that happened to be between home and the grocery store. It takes intent.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.