'taking charge'....or 'being in control' is such a sexual charge for me...what I mean is....it's so easy for a guy to take control....'sorta, jump in jump out, slap her on the ass and say thank you very much'....but to allow her to be in control...to build a guy to a peak and then pull back....to entice and to show tenderness.....to be agressive as in....."honey, I want to make love to your body"..."please allow me to play".....damn, that would be very erotic.