The cowgirl posion is the most apparant position for a woman to take to be to take charge so to speak. But, I have found that there are subtle things a woman can do in most any position to direct. Telling him what to do, what feels good, what not to do.... not to mention working those "special" muscles.... gets him everytime..

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