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Originally posted by ericthered
Kali69 - don't make a big deal of it. Things like this happen and the real cause is that you have an uneducated male and you're not communicating effectively.

So don't have a serious discussion about it all - that puts presure on everyone. Just help him play with you next time - he'll enjoy seeing that. And when he gets inside you, tell him to wait while you get yourself off. There - that's got rid of all the embarrassment and the next lesson will be to encourage him to give you your orgasms first.

No big deal - nothing broken - you just have to take him in hand.....

I have to dissect this for my own knowledge....so bear with me here hun. First you say that she has an uneducated male and she's not communicating effectively, and then you say to NOT have a serious discussion about it? No wonder they say men are from Mars and and women from Venus. LOL! OK...I'm not slammin ya here....I just want to add something that might satisfy everyone. It's always been said that the best time to talk about a possible problem is NOT in the moment, but away from it.

For example.....maybe kali69 and her S/O might sit down to dinner one evening and she might bring up the subject. "Honey, remember the other night when we made love so beautifully and yet when you came out of the bathroom I was pleasuring myself?" And, perhaps go on from there to say, "It was so great to feel you cum inside me (or wherever he came) but I was so into watching your pleasure that when you were through, I hadn't cum yet myself". From there......a discussion could begin and yet there would be no pressure on either side.

I see your point ericthered.....that it could be awkward in the moment. But how could he become educated if he doesn't know what she's thinking? And why would it be embarrassing to talk about each others needs? This is precisely where a problem begins......in assuming that the other knows your thoughts and yet you haven't spoken them! If you discuss your thoughts and needs.....away from the moment.......no embarrassment or pressure is passed along.

Meet me on Venus? Or shall I come to Mars? LOL!