Loulabelle, I have a particular reason for not being able to tolerate being called bitch, slut, or whore or having things said to me in a tone of humiliating me or being angry with me. I was raped. For the most part I've overcome its impact on me except when it comes to the stuff I first mentioned here. The incident involved a lot of name calling, anger, and humiliation, and experiencing anything close to that just opens up the wound all over again. Ironically, I am a "bottom," and I thrive on that in the bedroom, but it just can't involve the name calling and humiliation in particular. I DO tell my fiance that when I'm upset or he's upset I'd like him to escort me to the bedroom and fuck the hell out of me, but I mean that more in the sense of like when your kid is having a tantrum and you "calmly" hold them or restrain them until THEY calm down.

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