In my last relationship I had a lot of sex like that......I lost all sex drive and really didn't want anything to do with sex at all.

I felt very guilty about this as when my fiancee and I first got together I was a complete nympho (in fact I had to curb a lot of my dirtier preferences because he was so straight - something I believe led to my lack of sex drive in the long term) so i used to 'force myself' into sex. All the time I'd be thinking to myself 'Am I wet enough for him yet?' and I did used to have sex when no where near fully aroused. And yes it did hurt. To the point where I even endeed up having panic attacks mid way through sex sometimes.

As for whether this is the norm for every long term relationship, call me an optimist but I don't believe it is: I believe that most women have done it when they didn't want it to one point or other, but that most probably learn their lesson after being in a relationship like that.

I am now in a relationship where I wouldn't dream of having sex until I wanted it (which admittedly is all of the time!) and having met him here at Pixies, he knows me so well sexually that I feel confident to express my naughtier side and have discovered (thankfully) that he loves it and knows just what he has to do to get me begging to have sex with him. This is the kind of sex I intend to have from now on - no more 'duty fucking' for me.

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