I would say to lube both you/toy and her but I'm also wondering, by the sound of it, if she is getting a reaction to the lube you are using. Because the burning stinging feeling sounds to me like an allergic reaction. The lube might work on the front door ok but sounds like the back door might disagree. If lubing you and her still causes a problem then try a different lube. Hope this helps.

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